Overspent
The PRICE of not earning an income when not being a tai tai (rich man’s wife) : To feel GUILT-STRICKEN when overspending.
I have reminded myself not to overspend since I gave up my career. I am proud that I have been resisting all temptations to BUY although the sky seems to fall on me overnight especially when I have always been able to spend without guilt with my self-earned income.
During this period, I have successfully taught myself what is value for money and how I could buy at lower cost the same range of products from smaller retail shops. Though my sponsor at home has not advised me against shopping or buying, I have volunteered to be considerate by SAVING - of course except for GOOD FOOD and BOOKS!
So, I have practised self-discipline till this week when I have the sudden urge to BUY!
Supermarket. Bookshop. Kids’ shop. Day in, day out <Boring huh? Mommy needs some minor adjustments in life.>
I woke up that morning telling myself that I need to pamper myself to some good treats. Perhaps, it is my stress syndrome again when I tend to buy when I am stressed up.
[I have been cooped up at home for last few weeks to enable Brendan in preparing for his Primary 6 Preliminary exam and I am so automated to buying mostly the kids' stuff whenever I am shopping. All of a sudden, I had this urge to just go spend on myself and be excited.]
I convinced myself “Why not get a bigger bag to carry the kids’ stuff?” <It sounds logical to buy> *self-comfort*.
Next, I persuaded myself to buy another smaller handbag and my face started beaming when I spotted also a leather purse and couldn’t resist.
Then, I consoled myself “Just use my own savings and I won’t feel so guilty spending that of hubby’s” *another self-comfort*.
I was excited over my new purchase until Brendan started making me guilty again “Why do you need all these handbags when you do not go office anymore? Are you carrying these bags to supermarket?”
Hmm…That’s true.
I forgot my new status. It only shows that I am still learning to adjust to my new lifestyle. I think I should buy more recycling bags to go supermarket instead *haiz*.
ADJUSTMENT…I am a homemaker now.
Then, the next day suddenly something inspired me. I ended up spending beyond my budget again in the hair saloon having my hair trimmed, coloured and double-treatment! Luckily, hubby approved my claim, without questioning:) Seriously, I am used to seeking official claims from company but never hubby. The feeling is strange but sweet.
[Anyway, should I say beautifying hair is an official purpose for homemaker? Well, if it helps making hubby feel proud *haha*. ]
Again, MORE ADJUSTMENT…to make claims from my new boss at home.
Aahhh! This mommy really needs to remember her new status. Looks like I will have to master my self-discipline in not having this sudden shopping splurge or it will only put my last few months of effort to waste!
Looking on the positive side, when I no longer earn my own income, it has taught me the value of spending prudently.
Hmmm, not being a tai tai and need self-control, that’s hard to do ;)
Definitely need to give yourself sometime to get use to the new status. However, being able to analysis and know the current situation is already a very good step ahead :)
not difficult to do. Just set your priorities right and Ta-Daa, the ‘new’ habits and behaviour will fall in place. *wink*
It’s a challenging adjustment but i can say that your on it already, so that is good.
About beautifying hair or looking after yourself should be always on top of your list even though your new status is homemaker. I may add that homemaker is also a job and much more tougher job their is because you do it for love, “no salary to come forth nightly”.