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When I first chose to be a parent, I had been prepared for a GREAT responsibility.

As parents, we find magical strength in working extremely hard to give our children a comfortable life, we make huge adjustments to our lives, we strive to spend more quality time with our children amidst our forever busy schedule, we try our very best to make sure that we give them a good headstart in life and much more…… 

Then, as we get conscious, we realise that there is the other part of our PARENTING RESPONSIBILITY that makes it equally SIGNIFICANT to bring up our children to be a generation of tomorrow who is also filled with good internal qualities and with right attitude in life.

And this other part of the GREAT RESPONSIBILITY, I would say, is the most challenging.

Because it means, as parents, we have to CONSCIOUSLY be AWARE and refrain from our bad attitude in life and our negative behaviours.

[Yes, every action we take, our children are watching us. Every word we say, our children are listening. A wrong step we take and it is not difficult for our children to remember.]

Often, it becomes too LATE when we note a resemblance of our negative behaviours and attitude in our children.

To maintain that constant state of CONSCIOUS PARENTING is far from easy.

Seriously, I am striving to improve my score for this but as parents, we do need that constant reminder and self-reflection too. There are just many situations and factors in life that lead to us not being able to practise what we preach.

 Hope this youtube is useful in sharing with parents our responsibility in ”Conscious Parenting”.  I like it because it makes me more conscious.

After more than a decade into marriage, I admit Marriage is not a bed of roses. 

We are bound to have our differences and it takes alot of cooperations and efforts by both person to sustain a life-long relationship.

At the point of marriage vows, a couple makes their promises for life.  Then, it would take two willing parties to fulfill these promises.

 How do some couples nurture and sustain their marriages? We have much to learn from those who maintain a blissful and life-long marriage.

Here are ten rules from a couple who reached their 50th anniversary and successfully made their marriage a promise for life.

1. Never both be angry at the same time.

2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.

3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.

4. If you must criticize, do it lovingly.

5. Never bring up mistakes of the past.

6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.

7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

8. At least once every day say a kind or complimentary word to your life partner.

9. When you have done something wrong, admit it and ask for forgiveness.

10. Remember it takes two to make a quarrel.

These rules relate mainly to lowering our pride AND BEING less self-centred, more accomodating, more forgiving and more communicative.

Isn’t it?

For those married, how many of these do you fail in?

Click HERE to read our earlier post on Marriage.

Is this 5-storeyed landed property my house?

NO!  Of course not!

It is really costly to own a property like this in Singapore and will cost us a few S$ millions. 

However, this is a typical DREAM HOUSE of my eldest son.

In recent weeks, Bren has been having the aspiration of becoming a lawyer (haha….no longer a pilot) and wanting to earn big bucks to support his father and me.

[Hee...I wonder where he got the information that a successful lawyer can earn as much as S$30,000 a month (that is way above the average salary range of most Singaporeans.) To him, being a lawyer means being able to outtalk others. Haha...Seriously, this is one of the things he does best at home.]

Then he talked about owning a few-storeyed property so that WE could all live under one roof.  WE meaning myself, his Papa, his brother and their families. ”Each” will occupy a floor.

Hmm….Not bad. I don’t want to do the housework in this BIG house but I like the idea:)  Not of living in a BIG landed property but of the concept of EXTENDED FAMILY.

Well, it is an ambitious goal for my son. But I don’t wish to be a wet blanket.

It is good to have a GOAL and I explained to him that he needs to work hard and have a plan to achieve this GOAL.

Afterall,

 ”A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

- Larry Elder-

Hee….I look forward to the day *wink*.