Some mothers pursue their career and strive to accord quality time for their families. Some mothers have their own careers and leave their children’s well-beings in the good hands of their grandparents or babysitters. Some mothers dedicate their lives to their families by being the supportive mothers and wives and giving up their careers, while others choose to work from home.

Which category of mother do you belong to?  Well, for me, I belong to Category One. The type of mother who strives to do her best at home, at work, and personally attending to all family matters. The reality is ….. it is tough, especially when I am constantly racing against time and want to excel in all.  So….as I have mentioned in my earlier posts, I wish there were more time in a day. Balancing life and time for a working mother is definitely no easy task, and at times, it can really wear me out….. but the satisfaction derived at the end of yet another fulfilling day….. is more than words can describe.

Another reality is a parent plays the most important role of understanding the progress and well-beings of a kid. Nobody can replace the position and role of a parent in the kid’s heart. It is absolutely critical to cultivate that parent-child bonding no matter how busy we are. I am aware of parents, who spend time at home, but not interacting with their kids. Some parents leave the children’s well-beings to their domestic helpers. Some parents shower their kids with things, thinking that that it is sufficient to make up for lost time. Others, who are capable of coaching their kids, prefer to leave it to tutors and feel that the kids are well-taken care of, without parents’ observations. 

In today’s competitive society, I guess there is also no excuse to say that “Hey, I am a mother and so can you assign me less jobs? Or I do not deliver my job because I have kids/parents to tend to. Or neglecting job deadlines just because we have a family to take care of.”  So, the truth is as working mothers, we need to manage our lives so that we can perform our different roles well. The society has changed whereby women can be as successful as men in their careers but the perspective that is taking time to change is that mothers are still expected to contribute more to family management while carving a career. So…..ultimately, it is still juggling huh? KUDOS to Mothers!

Last two months have been the most hectic and challenging period for me.  I was “juggling balls” on most nights and over the weekends. On one hand, I was busy with the preparation of a public event for my company, achieving some recognised certifications for the company and many many other planning matters. Thinking of it, I am glad that we managed to make it for all. On the other hand, I was trying to allocate time for the family.  Most of the time, we feel helpless over time management especially when everything seems to clash. During the busiest period of my career, coincidentally, I had to also guide Brendan in his preparation of the exmination, take care of Darren who came down with Hand Foot Mouth Disease (yes! 2 times in a year!) and train a new domestic helper. I am glad all these are over.. .*a sigh of relief*.

I did not know how I made it but we survived the hectic period, not leaving any side or anybody “neglected”.  I strongly believe that nothing is impossible as long as we have FAITH.  The race is still on for me as I gear myself for more challenging assignments at work and not forgetting an overseas trip that I promised the kids. Yes, it is inevitable to feel tired, striving to STRIKE A BALANCE between work, family and my personal life. I am sure many other mothers are going through the same process. It is a choice that I have made and to me, I am not going to push the responsibilities to anyone else. Phew…..these few days, I have been sleeping…yah to recharge for more challenges ahead…these few days I have to remember to slow down my pace…to reflect and to spend more time with the kids….

If you are also a busy mother, how do you strike a balance in your life?  How do you do your best at work and also at home and not forgetting to practise self-care? You are welcomed to share:)

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