Bearing with Noise
Noise. This is certainly never lacking in our lives, having two young boys.
They talk loudly and argue so often in the car, at home, on the street…. Any place you can name it. As long as they are together and awake.
“Keep quiet”! ‘Talk softer!” These are so often coming out from Papa Ed’s and my mouths, that we have lost count of it. It is funny how we become part of the noise creation too when trying to get our boys’ attention to stop their arguments. *LOL*.
The other day, I overheard Papa Ed in a begging tone to Darren :” I am having headache. You are so noisy. Pl keep quiet ok?”
Next, Papa Ed was saying that we should buy pacifiers for the boys. Though I know he was joking, I also know that we are at wits-end when it comes to getting the boys to quieten even for a short moment.
Hence, we parents seem to be at the mercy of our boys, when no amount of warnings seem to quieten them, to give even a 5-minute of peace *sigh*.
[I am not sure, what is the situation when parents have a combination of boy and girl or solely girls. Are they less noisy?]
So, we often yearn for a day when the boys can learn to argue less, shout less and ramble less.
……..
Well,
Till that day, when someone enlightened me….
A mother of a young boy (around Brendan’s age) was telling us “You should be thankful that they are born to be able to talk“.
She is right. It suddenly occured to me that the next time we fret and complain, we should learn to look at the positive side of things.
Yes, we should be thankful that :
- the boys are blessed to be able to talk
- the boys are quick-witted to be able to challenge each other in their speeches
- we are blessed to have two healthy and lively boys who will never be lonely as long as they have each other’s company
- our lives are no longer lonely and boring since the boys fill our lives with voices
- they are part of our lives and enjoy these endless conversations with us and each other
Despite the frustrations when they refuse to cooperate. Despite the lack of peace. Despite our complaints. Hmm…I must learn to be thankful.
Brendan is nearing his teenage phase. As they grow, I will miss the days when the family used to be filled with noises and laughters.
Indeed, they have coloured our lives with different episodes everyday. Perspectives become better when we think positively, isn’t it?
I am learning to count my blessings as a parent. What about you?
This post reminds me to be thankful that my daughter is healthy. She keeps on wanting to be carried when we go out and I can be heard repeating over and over…you’re so heavy Via. Thanks!
It is what positive thinking is about ;)
I find myself yelling more at our 2 boys to keep quiet recently. I too tell them to “Keep quiet cos you’re giving me a headache!” I’m not sure too if it’s a boy-boy combination that contributes to the amount of noise.
Thanks for reminding me to look at things from another perspective. You’re right, we should be thankful that they’re able to talk!
Ing, sometimes persistent noise does get on our nerve and cause us to be unable to stay cool. Somehow, I keep reminding myself that kids being kids, I have to stay calm when they do not obey. It is not easy though..sigh…
Marie, you are right! I am also thankful for the best things that could ever happened in my life “that is the two boys” although their liveliness could sometimes be too demanding for our stamina…*LOL*.
Michael, a positive mind keeps us healthy and happy:)