After the unfortunate injury of Brendan, a friend commented “It is so usual for kids to fall and injure themselves. When I was young, my mom would scold me instead when I fell. Kids, nowadays, are pampered because parents get so worried.”

This statement gives me some sentiments…..

True, it is usual for kids to fall.

I agree, it is part and parcel of growing up. Through falling, kids learn to pick themselves up and in a way become tougher.

[I scalded my stomach and injured my eyes too when I was young and the side effect of that eye  injury has since become permanent.  Similarly, Papa Ed had to undergo stitching on his face - one beside the lip and the other on his forehead too.]

So, it is not unusual for kids to injure themselves either after being too playful, careless or injured by other young ones. However, there is different severity to falling or other injuries. Certainly not good if our kids require stitching or suffer head injury or leg/hand injury which might affect their mobility even for a while. The risk is there and that’s why we always remind our kids to be careful.

Parents show concern for their kids in different ways.

Some motivate their kids to be strong when accidents happen, caution their kids the danger of certain actions and show concern outrightly.

Some might scold their kids for being playful or carelessly hurting themselves but still feeling very concerned within them.  

Others might not utter a word but care in other way like staying by their kids’ side, taking time to nurse them etc.

I happen to be the first type of parent who tends to show concern outrightly.  In fact, although I show my outright concern for my sons when they are hurt, it does not mean that I am pampering them. Oh dear, when a kid is bleeding badly, how can it be said that we are pampering him?

[We have through this incident share with Brendan too the spirits of being brave and strong and to help him build up his level of tolerance and confidence.]

I believe that it is not necessary that we model after our parents’ approach.

Seriously, it is only after I become a MOTHER that I start to appreciate that whatever the approach of my parents, they CARE ALOT for me.

It is only after becoming a MOTHER that I start to feel how a parent would ever feel so concerned and heartache for a child - especially her own child.

No matter how our parents react to situations when we are young, ultimately they are concerned.

The feelings and bond for our kids are so deep that only parents can understand and not for others to comment. Parents, do you agree with me?

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By the way, Brendan is recovering well except that he has also developed diarrhoea possibly due to allergy to the antibiotics. His wound on the lip will take 2 weeks to heal. He is walking well too *grin*

Not feeling so well he may be but he is really feeling HAPPY *wider grin*

The Get-Well card from his teachers and classmates have made him really cheeful.

I would really like to thank his 2 teachers who have been calling everyday to ask about his conditions and friends who dropped those beautiful words to make him laugh.

It is you who make everyday such a sunny day for Brendan and the reason for him to love school. THANK YOU *smile*

Finally, THANK YOU to our readers cum friends AND friends who understand our feelings and drop us those warm encouragements.

And to my mom and dad too who have been cooking porridge for Brendan everyday.

Really appreciate *smile*

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