As mothers, we might not get the open appreciation from our children for everything that we have done for them.

Many times, we wish we have children who will just obey us readily or even volunteer some help without being told and we will be thankful if they do not build a mess.

Sometimes when we get so tired of simply planning every detail for the family and having to repeat kind-intended messages so many times on deaf ears, we yearn for our children to be more sensible soon and we wish we could SCREAM our constraints away.

Motherhood is definitely no easy process and there is no model answer guide for every mother.  As our children develop, we get accustomed to their changes, adapt, make mistakes and even blame ourselves but then we still move on - aiming to be a better parent as we grow with our children.

Despite the amount of commitment, responsbilities and difficulties that I might have as a parent, NO…. we don’t count our losses and sacrifices or get calculative with our children. Everything we give to our children, it comes so naturally from our hearts and we do not expect a return.

True. No matter how much frustrations I sometimes have shouldering the ever growing demands, handling our boys who at times show behavioural changes - motherhood is still a fulfilling journey for me.  It has taught me many lessons in life like unconditional love, the joy of giving and the fruits of patience.

Yes. Mothers need lots of PATIENCE.

No. I do not go around expecting our boys to return favour or express their gratitudes for me or their father.

Hence, I am exceptionally thankful that our boys do show their LOVE for me by showering me with gesture that money cannot buy. Eg. Darren hiding a paper fan that he has made for me in my drawer. Both boys giving me secret notes. Darren offering a gentle massage. Both boys planning those birthday celebrations for me. 

[Haha...I have received many more love notes from our boys than from hubby *lol*. Oh yeah...Our boys are given the space to display their artwork on bedroom walls and beds as long as they don't destroy the paint:)]

This was what I discovered on my wall when I came home from grocery shopping yesterday…by Darren.

By Brendan for my birthday celebration. I like how he conceptualises his parents as an older tree which is sheltering the smaller tree (our boys) from bad weather and how he has not forgotten to include his father and brother in his kind thoughts. Hmm…even more the “We are Always beside you” and hwo he connects the family members like kind of “bonding”.

There is no need for recognition of efforts in motherhood. I am heartened to know that our boys continue to hold me so dearly in their hearts and that’s enough motivation for me:)

My greatest wish is for our boys is for them to always get along with each other and to also hold each other dearly in their hearts. Got it, boys?

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