We had a simple celebration of our wedding anniversary few days ago.

Looking back at the last 14 years, it has not been easy for us especially when we lived apart for those few years. I recognised how challenging it had been for our children and ourselves to have a long distance relationship.

To keep a marriage happy, it is so important to cherish the memorable moments and let go of the bitter ones. It is necessary to maintain a balanced head in resolving our  unhappiness/conflicts although our spouse might not always want to talk it out at all.

Anyway, I am happy that we are spending much time as a family now. Really happy:)

I love the flowers and cake, especially when they came as a surprise during our wedding anniversary when I thought that we wouldn’t be celebrating since our little one was sick.

I guess it is only natural that when two people get real close, we tend to show our temperaments towards each other more easily, have higher expectations of each other, get sensitive easily over each other’s actions, and also take each other for granted.

Seriously, like many other couples, there are times when I wish he could just utter a “SORRY” readily OR accomodate all my wishes OR see eye to eye with me in the parenting method OR be more careful with my feelings……..

After many years together, I guess our “wish you could be” list tends to get longer and tension heightens if we don’t know how to takes things easier or let go of our unpleasant feelings and to learn how to let the sleeping dogs lie.

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Hey! John Gray is probably right that “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”.

We are bound to have our differences and values in life which lead to tensions and bitterness in a couple’s relationships. 

Then.

I learn to see more of his virtues and how’s life without him by our side.

Gladly, I am contented that we have many things in common including likes and dislikes in food, hobbies and movies.

I appreciate those countless moments, when he has been proactively there for us NOW – on most of kids’ important events, weekends and even medical appointments, preparing children for examinations, ferrying kids daily for school/activities without any grumble, relieving me of most daily household chores, preparing our daily breakfast and supper so that I could have more sleep, bearing with my grumblings on our car trips, and making it  a point to spend time with me (without the kids) almost every Friday evening.

It is so important to have a husband and father who makes a conscious efforts to be there for us and shows his moral support and love although in his own quiet way. 

Over time, we tend to take our loved ones for granted if we get too overwhelmed with our differences/conflicts and overlook their silent contributions in our lives.

I am truly thankful and appreciate this significance and efforts in a love relationship if we want to make it work -

Being able to :

Let go of past,

Cherish the present,

Have faith for the future.

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