Behind Every Successful Man, There Is A Woman
Common Saying
Remember the common saying ”Behind Every Successful Man, There is A Woman“? I do not know how this saying starts but it must hold much truth for many variations of similar versions to be be shared *wink*
Many mommies and wives have opted to stay at home to look after the domestic matters, kids and elderly parents. In addition, some also work from home. Most do this to spend quality time with their kids and also give the fullest support to their husbands so that daddies/hubbies can concentrate their time and effort at work. Some stay at home due to culture and other reasons.
Changing Society and Women’s Role
While the society has evolved and there are also a number of daddies who stay at home to tend to domestic matters and kids, the general mentality is still that mommies can do a better job at home while hubbies/daddies carve out a success at work.
Today, as women receive higher education, many are also showing their capabilities at work. However, the general saying or expectations of a “Behind Every Successful Man There Is A Woman” still remains. A growing number of mommies are striving to carve out a successful career and also strike a balance in family life.
So does it remain true that “A Mother’s Success is Measured by Her Success At Home” and not so much of “Success At Work”? Somehow, there is this question popping up in my mind….why is it that in today’s society while mommies or wives are wearing our career hats and “expected-to-be ideal mother’s hats”, we are still generally expected to be performing excellently in domestic matters or kid management? While we hold on to the popular saying that women’s existence is so important to support the success of their men or sons, does it also mean that women today need to wear more hats now and still to ensure the success of our men? *ponder*
Why do we not also consider the other school’s of thoughts (in the case of a marriage) that “Behind Every Successful Woman, There is A Supportive Man“? In this case, daddies/hubbies have to understand the needs of their spouses and give all the mental support and walk out of the mentality that “certain chores” are meant for women only? With a changing society, it is only REASONABLE to understand the importance of EQUAL PARENTING and EQUAL PRIORITY IN FAMILY, and NOT continue to let them rest on the shoulder of one party only.
Moments to ponder….
Well Done! Supportive Hubbies/Daddies
Of course, there are already many supportive daddies and husbands who are already rolling up their sleeves to do their parts and understanding that wives/mommies are wearing multiple hats now. Good Job! I guess both parties must be equally supportive to ensure a happy family and career.
As for Us
For this, I am thankful to have a husband who volunteers his shares of household chores, taking care of our boys and who beams over every success of his wife and kids as much as he does for his own. ….although we are still a little away from being EQUAL. Afterall, he has his career in mind.
Though there are times when I have to bear a much higher responsibilities when he is not around for us (Yes, and I do complain about overloading and over-estimation of my capabilities), he understands my dedication in my career and family, and that he will be extremely involved in the family life whenever he is not overseas. For this, “Thank You”and I know he understands my appreciation and what I mean (despite my occasional grumblings and expectations) *wink*.
Perhaps, the arrangements have not been totally the way I wish it could be. Maybe, I have my own expectations. But after hearing stories of some other hubbies/daddies, I have to learn to be appreciative (We all have to). Being a couple, definitely, the importance of “Give and Take” and “Mutual Respect” is something that we have to constantly remember and persevere.
I guess “Behind Every Successful Mommy, There Must be A Supportive Family and Employer” (for those employed) *Right?*
So, what are your views on this topic? You are welcomed to share.
guess husband and wife should support each other no matter what.
“Behind every great man there’s a great woman”
Amazing
I agree with your last sentence.. :) I never thought of it that way before.
Hi Judy, welcome to our site! I am glad we share common insights:)
Successful woman is a woman who can combine her career and family, find a balance between these 2 wide fields. It’s a big job and not all cope with it. That’s why I definitely agree with your idea that behind every successful woman, there should be a supportive man. That’s so nice to know you can rely on someone who cares about you.