How many of you have son(s) and are yearning for daughter? How many of you have daughter(s) and wish you could have a son?

Me?

I would be lying if I say that I have never dreamt of having a daughter.  I even thought of trying for one but if I end up with an army of boys even before I have a girl, it would be exhausting and I would be outnumbered *haha*!  Seriously, we even thought of adopting a girl more than a year ago but that idea was not for long….

I had yearned for a daughter who would not mind shopping with mommy and would bring out that feminine side of me again *haha*.  Seriously, I do not mind having some girl’s talk in the family that males can never engage in the same frequency, no matter how hard they try.  The feelings get worse when we meet elderly relatives or friends who tend to ask when we intend to have a daughter especially when Brendan and Darren have grown bigger and while we are what they considered as young.

Soon, when Lunar New Year arrives in 1 month’s time, we could foresee another round of this usual question by we know who….. *haiz*.

[I often wonder why people are so concerned whether I have another child when I already have 2 sons AND why it is deemed important that I have a child of another gender. Sigh.....Just when I thought that I have done my "national service" of contributing to population and  can be spared from this pressure.]

And if I decide to have a 3rd child, NOPE, it will not be due to external pressure but simply because I want a stronger female representation at home *wink*. Otherwise, the finger game of  ”Scissors, Paper, Stone” method of making a decision will be here to stay for a while…I must be kidding *lol*.

Seriously, I have accepted that double will be what I want for now unless …….*haha*.  But we know our decision should not be centred on how exhausting it would be but whether we could bear the responsibilities to give all 3 kids equal amount of love and attention and towards their good upbringing. I admit that Papa Ed and I won’t be able to manage.

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Each of us tends to have some unfulfilled wishes that could not be accomplished and remain out of our control.

The key is to see the wonders of what we have with us and not brood over “What if I have…..?” 

As it is right now, I feel sincerely happy and blessed to have two lively and lovely boys.  Their gender is not important. What really matters to me most are their health,  our close bonding and how I could afford fair attention to both.

Besides, having two energetic boys have roughened me much more (with all their strenous activities); taught me to nag less (hehe…I realised that I’d be driving myself madly angry if I had to nag at our males at home “day and night” who tend to have no patient ears);  and, maybe, I could gain a deeper insights of men’s inner thoughts through our boys *I wish*.

I cannot dress our boys like Barbie dolls but I certainly can let our boys put on the same dressing.  I always enjoy seeing our mini boy and bigger boy - as a double in that same top. They have  quite a number of same tops and pants.

These moments are not for long because soon Brendan will have to revamp his closet to introduce teenage wears.

[He will soon out grow the L and XL size of children's clothes. Those fanciful clothes in the children's section are not exactly his desired types now and those clothes in the men's section are over-sized for him *frown*.]

When that day comes, these photos will become so memorable…their same identity - as brothers.

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